The Layers Of Life

The Layers Of Life

Have you ever had the experience where you thought you had moved on and healed from something in your past, then suddenly, something triggers you and you are right back in it? That, my friends, is a part of the layers of life. Do we love them, or do we fear them? For me, it’s usually a little of both until my vision clears.

A person doesn’t get to be 54-years-old without accumulating a few layers. I have been peeling them back for years. I’m finally at the point where I’m not all that surprised when it’s time for a new layer to come off. It’s what gets me to my next level every time. Now, instead of staying stuck, I embrace the suck and look forward to what’s ready to emerge.

When I see my friends and family peeling back their layers, I offer support. However, I’ve learned that I can’t save them from the suck. NOR SHOULD I.

The suck is an essential part of the process for growth and what lies beyond that. It’s why we are on this journey called life.

I’ve been in a bit of suck these last couple of weeks with old wounds and new wounds that are looking for healing and transformation. AND, I welcome it. Since I know this journey well now, I trust myself to write my new story. There have been moments of amazing brilliance during these times too. New growth is emerging as I stay focused on who I am and why I’m here. What I allow myself to do today, that I didn’t allow in the past, is to feel it all – the hurt, the anger, the sadness, the joy, the gratitude, and the absolute love and support from those who know what I’m about. As I let the emotions roll through me, I see the new layer emerging quicker. It’s a practice. A practice for the rest of my life.

I also know that I have an amazing support system to help me process and get me back to being focused on where I’m going instead of where I’ve been. The people in my support system remind me of what I want, not what I don’t want, and they continue to reinforce why I’m here on this journey.

I am so grateful for the hundreds of people I could call for support. I know they all have my back. I am grateful for YOU. It’s okay that my story doesn’t look like your story. I get to write mine, and you are the author of yours.

Simply remember, it’s through the suck that the real transformation occurs.

It’s hard.

It’s messy.

It’s essential.

AND, it’s why we’re here.

Embrace the suck, and find the joy. It’s there. Choose it!


If you are stuck in the suck, let’s talk. Often others can see your blind spots and help you find a step forward. Email me at and let’s have a call.

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